What I Learned

I fell short of a huge goal in my business this past year. For the first time in four years, I did not meet the requirements to be called an Elite coach.

And it is important to me to share this with you because you all have been so generous with me, so supportive, so receptive in allowing me to share my life, my business, and my family with you. And it’s so much fun to tell you the good stuff, but it doesn’t seem right if I don’t share some of the disappointments along the way. I feel like I owe that to you.

So what did I learn?

1. You have to track your goals consistently from the get-go. The title of Elite is a YEAR-LONG quest. I should have mapped it out, broken it down, and made sure I was meeting the standards back in January, instead of waiting until October to really start measuring my progress.

2. While I am disappointed, I am not devastated. My ego is bruised, but my confidence is not shaken. I am discontent with the outside results, but very much at peace within.

3. Even without the title of Elite, I am still as passionate and excited about my business as ever. Elite does not change my potential for income or growth or my ability to mentor my team and customers. I was worried the wind would be taken out of my sails by this failure, but instead it has burned a new fire within me…the fire of discipline and intention and belief.

4. Kisses from Tessa > Elite 😜

So thank you. Thank you for reading my posts and cheering me on along the way…for your prayers for my family and my business…for your likes and comments and messages.

I love being a part of this community and sharing the good (and sometimes the bad).

Take It Slow

“You can do anything, but not everything.” David Allen

I haven’t totally mastered this concept, but I am always trying. As a matter of fact, one of the affirmations I say on a daily basis goes like this…

“I will not get everything done today and that’s okay.”

This affirmation completely transforms the way I start my day and the way I go about my day.

From the get-go, I lower my expectations.
I give myself permission to fail.
I acknowledge that I will not cross off everything on my to-do list and that life will still go on.

As we begin a new year, the temptation to do EVERYTHING is going to sneak up. Don’t give in, friends!

Adjust your expectations.
Give yourself permission to fail.
Take it slow.
Enjoy the magic.

Don't Give Up

Last week as I was reading Hebrews 10, I wrote these verses in my journal.

“Let us hold strong to the confession of our hope, never wavering, since the One who promised it to us is faithful.”

“Remember this, and do not abandon your confidence, which will lead to rich rewards. Simply endure, for when you have done as God requires of you, you will receive the promise.”

“But my righteous one must live by faith, for if he give up his commitment, My soul will have no pleasure in him.”

“My friends, we are not those who give up hope and so are lost; but we are of the company who live by faith and so are saved.”

I’m not sure how these may or may not speak to you, but as I read through these verses, it’s like flashing neon lights that say…

DON’T.GIVE.UP.

Give it a Fair Shot

Matt 100% supported me when I decided to try this business, but he had his doubts...he wasn't sure I had the kind of personality that could make something like this work. Why?

Because I don’t even like calling to order the pizza. (Anyone else? 🙋‍♀️) I don’t like calling the restaurant to make the reservation. I hate negotiating any kind of price. I’m outgoing in many ways, but NOT in those ways. Honestly, I’m more of a people pleaser than a bold #bosslady.

But despite all of that, I made this work. Because I chose to believe even when I doubted. I found a way to do this business in a way that felt good to me. I made the most of the time I had, not sacrificing the important things like family time.

It’s a new month which means I will be taking on 5 women to mentor and teach this business to. (Only 5 because I wouldn’t be very effective with any more than that).

You don’t have to be a professional at anything. You don’t have to look the part or know what you’re doing.

You just have to be willing to give this a FAIR shot, to do it scared, and pursue personal growth.

My Sweetnesses

This morning as I dropped my boys off at their VPK class, I vigorously waved and said “Goodbye my sweetnesses!!!”, in front of their whole class. In response, they gave me the biggest smiles and waved back equally as vigorous. ❤️

Walking away, I couldn’t help but wonder how many years I have left to love them, squeeze them, and loudly proclaim my adoration without them being embarrassed by me. 😳

I don’t know the answer to that, but I do know that from now on, I want to make the most of every hello and every goodbye, hugging and kissing them to my heart’s content. 🤗

Abundance

My word for the year has been ABUNDANCE. I’m not sure why that’s the word God gave me. It’s a word that made me uncomfortable. I kept thinking I must have misheard Him.

Yet, here’s what I’ve learned over the last few months. It’s okay to want more. You can pursue EXCELLENCE with an attitude of humility, contentment, and gratitude. You can dream big and still surrender to God’s will. You can desire more, while being generous with what you already have.

Abundance is of God.

"I came that they may have life and have it abundantly." John 10:10

Fight for Growth

I just set a REALLY big, year-end goal. The kind of goal that makes you nervous to even think about. 

I’m going to have to work harder than I want to work, get more uncomfortable than I generally like being, and willing to risk massive failure.

And even though this goal scares the crap out of me and I’m afraid to fail and not sure I’m up for this huge task, I also feel ALIVE.

I am willing to fight for growth.

Have you ever felt that way about something?